The power of-no!
My good friend and boss, Mary Graham let me in on a powerful truth, “No, is a complete sentence.” I always thought it needed to be fleshed out a little. “No, I can’t look after your Aunt Margaret’s sick parrot because much though I love them I am allergic to sick parrots.” Or, “No, I can’t fly in to sing at your Uncle William’s funeral who is not dead yet but should go any day, as I’m also on a list to donate a kidney to anyone who might need it in the next two weeks.”
If you own your, “no”, it should be enough.
Here’s the other surprise that I uncovered for myself over the last two months. Every, “no”, makes way for a, “yes”!
I decided about eight weeks ago that I was tired of doing the crazy-woman-running-around-her-closet-looking-for-something-that-fits dance. So I said no to sugar, empty carbs, (those are the yummy ones) white flour etc. It was hard for the first week, then it became easier. The surprising, yes, came last week as I was packing for my final Christmas event of 2009. I knew the people who had booked the event had gone to a lot of trouble to make it a special evening and I thought to myself, ” Where are the ball-gowns that I wore to herald Noah off the Ark?” I knew that the pink and gold one would be too small and I hadn’t a haggis’s chance of making it out of a Burn’s Supper alive (Ask a Scottish friend) of getting into the black one-but the red, perhaps. Well, the red was way too big as was the pink and gold and the black…very nice thank you!
So, let your “no” be “no” and own it-it will also open the door to a whole new world of “Yes’s!”